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• Don’t answer every question. Older children may press the bounds of what’s acceptable for a parent and child to discuss. A good response, says licensed psychologist Kim Rosenberg: “That’s private. It’s OK to say ‘We’re serious,’ and leave it at that.”

• Don’t let a new partner take the place of a parent. Avoid situations in which a new partner controls you or the child, says licensed social worker Tracy Bosis.

• Don’t drop a family routine. New love is no reason to abandon the child-parent activities you’ve made an essential part of your life.

• Don’t encourage a new partner to parent, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Instead, says Rosenberg, children should view the significant other as an adult friend or even a baby sitter.s