How to miss somebody
Free BY ERIKA GLASS, 18, Freestyle Staff Writer
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In the French language, "I miss you" is not really said. Those who speak French instead say "tu me manques," which translates closer to "you are missing from me."
The French say it right. It's like saying "you are as necessary as essential as an organ or limb, and I need you, but you are missing from me."
Being separated from certain people in your life can leave you feeling that very important parts of you suddenly dropped off and were left behind. You feel emptier, a little less yourself, and you would do anything to be back in the presence of those individuals. If you have ever missed someone, really missed them, you know exactly what I mean.
If I had to sum up in a few words what I spend most of my time at college doing, it would be, without a doubt, missing all those who are not there.
I often think to myself that I should consider switching my major from English to missing people. My family, my boyfriend, my very devilish but lovable dogs ... from whom I now have to spend the majority of my time miles away.
It's not that a college campus is an awful and nightmarish place to be. It's not that my dorm is a treacherous jail cell and I'm a prisoner with solitary confinement. It's not that I dislike this new and unfamiliar place. It's just that I miss the people I have to temporarily leave behind.
Over the course of the last few months, I think I have become a professional "misser." I know, that's not even a real word, but I think it's a very real feeling. I can say with confidence that everybody has missed somebody, but perhaps too often we don't go about missing people in the right way. Missing somebody does not have to be as sad an experience if you can appreciate the beauty behind it.
Instead of feeling empty without the person you're missing, realize how lucky you are to have people in your life for whom you care so deeply. You can smile back on joyful memories of the past, and excitedly look forward to enjoying times in the future. You may not be able to be with that person in the moment, but understand how lucky you are to have something worth missing, and to hold somebody so dear and so close to your heart.
The only person who has never missed anybody has surely never loved anybody, because the two go hand in hand. We miss people when our connection with them is one that we do not want to lose. We miss people who have touched our lives and left fingerprints that will never fade. You miss them because you care, because you like yourself better when you are with them, and for the simple reason that you love them.
The emotion is simple and complex all at the same time. It can be sad, undoubtedly, but it is so very beautiful. In the words of Winnie the Pooh, "How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard?"
These days, I am missing an array of the incredible people who make my life a happy one. My parents, Taylor, Austin, CJ, relatives, pets and so many other individuals stay close to my heart. I will never let the distance separating us turn the situation into a tragedy. Instead, I recognize the feeling as a simple reminder of how many people I have to love and care for. And there is no tragedy in that.