I’m not sure who coined the phrase, “Silence is golden” but I’m fairly sure he was married and his wife was Italian.
In marriage, we get so wrapped up in making sure we’re communicating we forget there are times when nothing needs to be said. It is entirely possible to say too much (usually while in the midst of an argument). You have to recognize that communicating with one another can be just as powerful, intimate, loving, and sarcastic without words.
My wife is a talker. Because of her profession (hair stylist), talking is how she builds trust with her clients and forges relationships that has built her a rather large book of loyal clients.
I’m of the belief; forcing conversation for the sake of conversation is what you do on your first date between the salad course and your entrée. Words can get in the way, especially if you happen to air on the side of idiocy more often than not (something I am quite prone to do). So I don’t try to initiate conversations when there is none to be had. I would much rather sit on my sofa with my wife, her feet up on my lap, enjoying the intimacy created by our innocent contact rather than force something that isn’t there.











